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Anal Sex  Read the first section carefully before attempting anythingBefore we embark on the journey to pleasurable anal sex techniques, let's for a moment focus on a few things that should be addressed first. While many of us find condoms to be a nuisance, health care professionals highly recommend for a variety of health reasons, that you always use condoms during anal sex. For those of us that hate condoms because of a reduced sensitivity during intercourse, The Japanese company Okamato (who also make the popular brand name Beyond Seven condoms) have come to the rescue, with the introduction of Crown Condoms. This is the thinnest condom on the market and much less noticeable than other condoms. Just like the box says: "it's the closest thing to nothing at all". It is also recommended that a lubricant be used when practicing anal sex. We generally recommend Astroglide, as its versatile and very reliable. The third item that you might want to have on hand before taking the leap into the pleasures of anal sex is something small to insert, such as a Small Love Plug, to exercise the muscle and get comfortable with the concept before moving on to the real thing (we'll discuss this technique further as we get into the details below).In this section much of what is written is not something I can endorse PERSONALLY. I have given Anal sex to several ladies who have enjoyed it but I have never been a recipient and have no wish to do so. This is not a condemnation but just a personal decision but I feel that it is important that this area is covered. Anal sex is not experienced exclusively by gay men; it is a facet of our collective sexual identity which has been explored by previous cultures and continues to be explored today. Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. Its not for everyone, but anal sex may be what you're looking for if you want to try something completely different. A Few Tips If you and your partner are ready to try anal sex, here a few pointers. 1. Go Slow. When trying anal sex trust and relaxation are essential. 2. Use Lubricant. We recommend something like Astroglide. Use it liberally. 3. Only use toys with a flared base. If you're going to be using an anal toy, make sure it has a flared base so that it does not become lodged in the rectum. Why do people enjoy anal sex? Anal sex is enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the anus. While people often experience pain when first attempting anal sex, as a person learns to relax, the pain often subsides into pleasure. For men, anal sex also offers stimulation to the prostate, an organ that provides the rush of pleasure during orgasm. Anal sex for many seems like a taboo activity, and much of society still shuns it. But statistics show that roughly 35% of heterosexuals and 50% of the gay community practice anal sex at least occasionally. How Can I Enjoy Anal SexTips for beginners.To prepare yourself for anal sex, the first thing to do is learn to relax. This may include a hot bath beforehand, an erotic massage or even just a good workout. Remember that the sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Do not start with something the size of a dildo or penis. Start with either: a) your partner's finger or b) Small Love Plug. The plug provides a unique sensation
and many couples consider it an exciting addition to the bedroom. If
you're more comfortable with a partner's finger then start with
that. The basic principle is to start small and work your way up.
One partner should lubricate or place a lubricated condom
over his or her finger. Take the finger and arouse the surface of
the anus, perhaps making small circular motions as you go. Always
pay attention to your partner to indicate whether or not he or she
feels comfortable. Slowly attempt to push your finger (or plug)
slightly inside the anus. Do not use force - stop immediately if
your partner complains of discomfort. If it is difficult to enter
the anus, you probably need more lubrication. The first time you try
this, the receiver may feel a bit of pain. Anal sex is not for
everyone, and if you feel uncomfortable stop and perhaps try again
later. Think of this process as training for later anal encounters.
Even a finger can provide intense stimulation when it is inserted in
the anus.
Once you have tried penetration with a finger a number of
times then you can move towards something that is a bit larger.
First you have to decide on what type of anal stimulation that you
 enjoy. Do you enjoy the movement of a finger, the fullness of a
plug, or the feeling of entry and withdrawal? You may wish to
proceed by being penetrated with your partner's penis or by using an
anal toy. For those who enjoy the feeling of penetration more than
motion or vibration, try butt plugs which are designed specifically
for this purpose. A butt plug sits inside the anus, and is not
generally used for thrusting back and forth. If a plug interests
you, we suggest the Big Flirt. This beautiful toy is made of pure
silicone and features a graduated design. The texture is unrivalled.
It's soft but resilient and retains body heat. You won't find a
better plug. We're confident you'll love the feel of this toy.
How Can I Ensure Safe Anal SexAnal sex can be a perfectly safe activity as long as you take the necessary precautions. You should remember that your anus and rectum do not have their own natural lubrication nor the kind of elasticity the mouth and vagina enjoy. That is why anal sex must be practiced with care. There are three things that should always be used whenever anal penetration is taking place; lubrication, condoms and common sense. Liberal amounts of lubrication are necessary because the rectal wall can be quite sticky and is subject to tearing and lesions if not kept lubricated. (Our favorite is Astroglide) In addition, the anus and rectum are narrow, so lubrication is needed to press inside smoothly. Condoms are another necessity. Enemas, douches and other cleaners will not be able to get all the germs and bacteria out of the rectum. Not only is anal sex facilitate the transmission of STDs better than any other form of sex, it can also cause urinary tract infections and other bacterial diseases. Latex protection is essential, and can offer additional slickness. Finally, use your common sense. The rectal wall curves and is thin so long, hard objects can tear your insides. Don't wear any jewellery on your hands, and cut your fingernails if you are going to put your finger in someone's anus. Most importantly, respect your body. Don't push the limits and go only as far as you feel comfortable.Positions To TryThe best positions for anal sex depend largely on what stage you and your partner are at in your experiences. Rear entry or the "doggie style" position is the one position most people associate with anal sex. However, rear entry allows a penis or anal toy to penetrate most deeply, and may not be the best choice for the beginner. A good starting position is the "spoons" position, with each partner laying on his or her side, one behind the other. This prevents the penetrating partner from going too fast, and allows complete control over penetration. It also brings you closer to your partner, making it easier to judge his or her reactions to what you're doing. Another position for anal sex is a variation of the
missionary position. The receiving partner lays on his or her back
while the penetrating partner approaches from on top. The
penetrating partner lifts up the calves or shins of the receiver,
exposing the anus. This can be an especially intimate position, with
both partners facing each other. The top partner can masturbate
the other and is open to massage and cuddling as well.
Finally, rear entry offers another possibility for anal
penetration. This position allows the penetration to be the deepest,
and permits the receiver to better open the anus for entry. Rear
entry doesn't offer the kind of intimacy or ease of communication
that the other positions do, but for more advanced lovers, can offer
the greatest amount of thrusting and penetration.
There are many more positions and techniques to try. Many people discover new and exciting positions through experimentation, and most people find the one that best suits them. Good communication is the key to such discovery, and a manual or video can help as well.
 The water felt good and I could feel my juices running down my inner thighs, I put one hand on my breast and had the other massaging the folds of my pussy. I wanted to cum really badly. I spread my legs apart and inserted my finger into my aching cunt, it felt so good. My finger was buried deep in my pussy and I started to rub my clit with my thumb, I started to finger fuck myself furiously and waves of pleasure took over. I turned around to look for the candle that I had placed on the vanity top, wanting to use it, when I saw Justin behind me. He had his pants down to his knees and was stroking his hard erect cock. I wanted to scream, but I just could not take my eyes off his shaft. I looked him in the eyes, stepped out of the shower, got onto my knees and started stroking his cock. It was huge. Now, I know what Nell meant when she tells me that she gets torn apart. He pulled my head closer and I licked his shaft, from the head to the base. I sucked on his balls and I could tell he loved it. I put my lips on the tip of his shaft and I could taste the pre-cum. I took in the head of his cock into my mouth slowly and started sucking. He released my hair clip and pulled my hair. Before I knew it I had half his cock in my mouth and I was sucking away. He removed his shirt and I took off his pants, he pulled me up and we started kissing passionately. He placed me on the vanity top, spread my legs apart and got onto his knees. "Mmmm, now it's my turn to taste you" he said. "Ohhh" was all I could say as he licked my inner thigh. As soon as the tip of his tongue touched my pussy, I was in ecstasy. I pulled his head close to my aching cunt and said "Lick me baby, fuck me with that tongue". He parted my cunt lips and shoved his tongue into my wet pussy. It felt so good. He licked me inside out, up and down and teased asshole with that tongue. "I'm cummming Justin" and he sucked on my clit. My juices were all over his face and mouth and he lapped it all up. He stood up and we kissed - I could taste myself on his lips. He made me turn around with my back facing him and started massaging my breasts, his cock felt so good against my back. "Tear me apart baby, tear me apart like how you tear Nell" I said, panting. I placed my hands on the vanity top and he parted my legs. Slowly, he inserted the tip of his cock into my cunt and shoved the entire length into my wet pussy. I was horny as hell, but his cock was so huge, I screamed in pleasure. In the 5 minutes that he had his cock in me, I came 3 times. I could not explain it, maybe it was the frustration but Justin was bringing out something else in me. "You want to be torn apart?" he asked. "Unngh yesss" was my answer. He slid his cock out slowly and massaged my pussy with his fingers. Then he rubbed my juices over my asshole, slowly he parted my butt cheeks I was surprised and quite scared, as I had never been fucked in there. "It's okay Kym, just relax" he reassured me. "Do you do this to Nell?" I asked. "Yes, and she loves it" was the reply. He picked up the bottle of Vaseline that I had on the vanity top and smeared it onto his cock. He then poured some onto my asshole and inserted the tip of his shaft into me, it was painful at first, but then pleasure took over and he was fucking me. I begged him to go faster and he did. While he had his cock in my ass, I rubbed my clit and came so hard. He gripped my hips and pumped me even harder. I moaned so loud and he was worried that the neighbors might hear, but I did not care. I was in heat, our sweat mixing, passion, primitive sex you name it. I was getting the fuck of my life. His increased his pace and said, " I'm cumming Kym". He shot his load into my ass as we came together. Never have I felt such pleasure and pain at the same time. We were spent and collapsed on the bathroom floor. After 2-3 minutes, we got into the shower, kissed and cleaned each other up. We met again 2 days later and had sex in his office. Justin and I still have sex frequently and at times, I would stroke his cock under the table whilst in the presence of our spouses. It may be wrong, but my sex life with Samuel has improved and he goes anal on me too. |